To Dye or Not to Dye


I know it is getting close to Easter, but I am talking about hair not eggs. Coloring my hair has become an increasingly difficult choice for me. I began finding random gray hairs in my mid twenties. I ignored that old wives tale about pulling them out and growing two in their place, and by the time I reached my mid thirties, I had a rather substantial silver streak across the front of my head. People asked me if I had it dyed that way, and I proudly told them it was natural.

Well, when the silver started to take over my head, I just felt old when I looked in the mirror, so I took the plunge and bought some hair color. I erased those natural highlights and went back to my chestnut brown locks.

Fast forward about 30 years and here I am contemplating letting my hair go natural. It has become a tedious, messy ordeal to keep coloring, and I think I may be ready to give it up. I am not even sure what my natural color might be at this point. I look at pictures of my mom and try to imagine myself with her hair.

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My beautiful mom

Well, to be honest, I probably would not actually go natural, but at least closer than it is presently. My hair is currently a light brown with blonde highlights and annoying silver roots which appear about every two weeks. I am tired of trying to keep up with the growth.

I used to think that gray hair just made us look old, but more recently I have had a change of heart. It is not the color that makes us look old, but rather our style and attitude. It seems everywhere I look there are women with beautifully coiffed silver gray tresses. Apparently GRAY is the new black! Older models with gray hair are gracing fashion magazines and advertisements everywhere. They look stunning!


So why am I so apprehensive????

I was discussing my thoughts on going gray with the girls over dinner on pub night. Everyone had their own opinion and ideas of course. Then someone sporting spiky, platinum hair with black and pink highlights said, “We should get to decide on YOUR hair because we have to look at you the most.” The table broke into gales of laughter. Oi vey!!!

Maybe I should ease into this gray transition thing by doing something totally fun,


Or perhaps not.

Another friend reminded me that if I color my hair, I must also consider my brows. She warned that it can be a dangerous situation. A technician was dyeing her brows and forgot her in the room. By the time the technician returned, she looked like Groucho Marx. The visual of that made me burst into laughter. It took several days of scrubbing to tone things down.

I have an appointment with my stylist in a few weeks, and I’ll discuss it with her. Until then, I guess I’ll just keep dyeing.


Thanks for reading,

Penny xo

P.S. If you have any thoughts or your own experience on this, let me know.


4 thoughts on “To Dye or Not to Dye

  1. You are stunning so it wouldn’t matter what your hair colour was!! I do know that I have let my “silver lights” come through from the beginning and it does really make life so much easier. I actually really like them, plus as I always say “I earned each and every one of them!”.

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  2. I too am a former brunette with very dark brows. I became “silver “ over the years because I was too lazy and cheap to take the colour route. My hands were full just finding a good cut. In the meantime, in the day, I when I attended every party in the neighbourhood…that would include Tupperware, foodie fads, jewelry and loose clothing, baby toy purchases, I suddenly became a WINTER person. To this day, I don’t hesitate to stop women in the vegetable section at Metro with You’re a WINTER, aren’t you?
    But I digress. Armed with this new fashion tip, I began to analyze my friends and colleagues and their hair more closely. The secret to a successful dye job for a Winter was to go lighter or go grey. Pitying the poor soul who kept the black or brunette locks I realized that as we age our skin colour changes too. Finding a colourist who understands this is vital if you absolutely feel the need to stay…away…from grey! So I’m a fan of colour if you have the time, money and a sage hairdresser who won’t steer you wrong.
    Penny, take the plunge. Looking at that beautiful photo of your mum, how can you go wrong?

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  3. Penny, your wonderful stories have me ‘dye-ing’ laughing, but more so, pondering all of the many, and thankfully, universal issues women deal with. Thank you for your wonderful and humorous insights. I can’t wait for the next entry!

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